How to Customize your Story and Connect with People

In the past, I’ve written about how you can start a story library and how you can pick the right story for the moment. Today, I want to share with you a method to customize your story for your audience while you’re telling them and offer you a free Audience Analysis Worksheet that identifies the […]

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How to Pick the Right Story for Every Occasion

By now, you’ve got a few stories in your Story Library and hopefully, you’ve told them a time or two and are starting to hone those stories. If you don’t have a few stories selected for your Story Library yet, go download a free Story Library Cheat Sheet and get yourself started there! The problem […]

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You Don’t Have to Memorize your Story

Even before they’ve started working on their story, many people are worried about the delivery. I get it. No one wants to be caught out unable to deliver a well-prepared story. My answer is: you don’t have to memorize your story. It sounds impossible, but it’s true. The advantage of telling personal stories is that […]

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You Need a Story Library

None of us have just one story. We have a multitude of stories. We have a multitude of identities and selves that all need their own stories. I am a mother and a reader and a writer and an entrepreneur. I am also an immigrant, Chinese, American, Dutch, woman, and so much more. So are […]

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Everyone’s a Story Expert

So, you’ve been in this situation. It’s the one where you’re at a function, social or business, and someone is telling a story. As they tell that story, you are drifting. Your mind wanders, you start to realize you’re a little hungry or thirsty or that your back hurts. You look at the person sitting […]

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Choose the Right Story to Introduce Yourself

Introductions are hard. You’ve had very little time to read the room. You don’t know much about the person or people you’re meeting. And you know first impressions count. No matter how many times we’ve been asked to introduce ourselves, the moment when your turn comes around the circle or when someone in a group […]

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Why Controlling Your Story Matters

Life feels wildly out of control these days. COVID-19 has taken all our plans and pulped them. Some of us have been thrust into the wild world of homeschooling and others are isolated like never before. It can feel like we don’t have many choices. It can feel like we don’t have control of our lives anymore. […]

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20 Ways to Find Personal Stories in a Time of Crisis

We are living in a time of tremendous uncertainty. The Stoics would argue that we always live in times of uncertainty, but in this moment, when the familiar world has been overturned in a matter of weeks, the uncertainty seems loud and clear. We don’t know what the future holds, whether you’re talking about a […]

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My stories are my roots

This post is based on an introduction to the film Women that I gave at the Focus Theater on behalf of Arnhem Together in Arnhem, The Netherlands on International Woman’s Day 2020 I went to college at the University of North Carolina in Chapel Hill. If you aren’t from the US, you probably haven’t heard […]

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