Everyone’s a Story Expert

So, you’ve been in this situation. It’s the one where you’re at a function, social or business, and someone is telling a story. As they tell that story, you are drifting. Your mind wanders, you start to realize you’re a little hungry or thirsty or that your back hurts. You look at the person sitting […]

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Choose the Right Story to Introduce Yourself

Introductions are hard. You’ve had very little time to read the room. You don’t know much about the person or people you’re meeting. And you know first impressions count. No matter how many times we’ve been asked to introduce ourselves, the moment when your turn comes around the circle or when someone in a group […]

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Why Controlling Your Story Matters

Life feels wildly out of control these days. COVID-19 has taken all our plans and pulped them. Some of us have been thrust into the wild world of homeschooling and others are isolated like never before. It can feel like we don’t have many choices. It can feel like we don’t have control of our lives anymore. […]

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20 Ways to Find Personal Stories in a Time of Crisis

We are living in a time of tremendous uncertainty. The Stoics would argue that we always live in times of uncertainty, but in this moment, when the familiar world has been overturned in a matter of weeks, the uncertainty seems loud and clear. We don’t know what the future holds, whether you’re talking about a […]

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My stories are my roots

This post is based on an introduction to the film Women that I gave at the Focus Theater on behalf of Arnhem Together in Arnhem, The Netherlands on International Woman’s Day 2020 I went to college at the University of North Carolina in Chapel Hill. If you aren’t from the US, you probably haven’t heard […]

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How Your Audacious Goal Invites Others to Join You!

During a workshop, a participant asked me if using their audacious goal was honest. As she put it, “If I tell people then I am going to cure cancer am I lying to them?” The short answer is that it depends on your phrasing and situation. If you tell them you’re going to cure cancer […]

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Use your story to stand out, not your CV

Every fall, I need a new babysitter. Since my babysitters tend to be busy and hard-working, I usually need a couple. I find them by posting a request on my expat Facebook group. My post gets anywhere from half a dozen two dozen responses every time. After I’ve eliminated anyone who doesn’t meet my basic […]

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diagram showing a structure for personal-professional story

A Story Structure for Your Personal-Professional Story

Every workshop I give starts with a story. You’d expect as much. But every workshop I give starts with a personal story, one that often includes my family members and that tells people both who I am and what story can do. For me, there’s no other way to go. When I give a workshop […]

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