You Don’t Have to Memorize your Story

Even before they’ve started working on their story, many people are worried about the delivery. I get it. No one wants to be caught out unable to deliver a well-prepared story. My answer is: you don’t have to memorize your story. It sounds impossible, but it’s true. The advantage of telling personal stories is that […]

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Why an Employment Gap isn’t a Gap at all

If you’re looking for a job, there’s nothing quite so frightening as having an employment gap on your CV or resume. We tend to see the gap as a failure, a failure to work, a failure to participate in what society expects from us. We know from experience that potential future employers will want an […]

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June 2020 Book Review

I dove deep into my bookshelves last month, but it wasn’t for reading. The Black Lives Matter protest rocked me to my core. A frightening online conversation that revealed the way people deal with strangers shoved me way off balance. My way to cope and contribute was amplifying Black voices via an excavation of my […]

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You Need a Story Library

None of us have just one story. We have a multitude of stories. We have a multitude of identities and selves that all need their own stories. I am a mother and a reader and a writer and an entrepreneur. I am also an immigrant, Chinese, American, Dutch, woman, and so much more. So are […]

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Everyone’s a Story Expert

So, you’ve been in this situation. It’s the one where you’re at a function, social or business, and someone is telling a story. As they tell that story, you are drifting. Your mind wanders, you start to realize you’re a little hungry or thirsty or that your back hurts. You look at the person sitting […]

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Choose the Right Story to Introduce Yourself

Introductions are hard. You’ve had very little time to read the room. You don’t know much about the person or people you’re meeting. And you know first impressions count. No matter how many times we’ve been asked to introduce ourselves, the moment when your turn comes around the circle or when someone in a group […]

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May 2020 Reading Review

Before I jump into a look back at the reading I did in May, I want to let you know I’m sharing a book a day by a Black author on my Instagram account. Please follow me and send book recommendations if you have them. Given that I’ve been reflecting on the things like systemic […]

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Women Need Big, Audacious Goals

Here’s the situation this week. Really, it could be any week, but this happened this week. I’m giving a workshop on creating your personal professional story. Everyone has done their homework and brought their audacious goals. When it’s time to share goals, some people want to cure cancer or eradicate a disease. Others want to […]

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April 2020 Reading Review

A monthly reading review is showing me month after month that there may be no end to my reading interests. I admire people who read single-mindedly, with a purpose and question. I also embrace the fact that I am not one of those people. Yet when I look back, there are broad trends and themes […]

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Why Controlling Your Story Matters

Life feels wildly out of control these days. COVID-19 has taken all our plans and pulped them. Some of us have been thrust into the wild world of homeschooling and others are isolated like never before. It can feel like we don’t have many choices. It can feel like we don’t have control of our lives anymore. […]

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